She’s Just Not That Into You, Man
You just had what seemed like an awesome first date. The restaurant you picked was perfect, the conversation was less than awkward and you even exchanged numbers at the end of the night. Except… she hasn’t called you back since. So, what gives? Maybe she’s just not that into you, man.
Skip the guesswork and find out what women aren’t into. Maybe it’s not her, it’s you.
Reasons why she may not have returned your call:
1. You have zero gift and date creativity
Most women love Ryan Gosling, but that doesn’t mean they want you to steal all of “his” ideas.
Try: Thinking outside of the cliché romantic comedy box. Do something personal that combines both of your interests. If you’re both athletic, go rock-climbing. If you’re both artsy, go to a painting workshop or a book reading.
2. You have selective hearing
Remember when she asked you to grab dinner on your way home? No? Uh oh.
Try: Putting down the Xbox controller. Call of Duty is fun, but it can wait. Make a serious effort to really listen when she’s talking. Otherwise, she’ll find someone new and you’ll have one less thing to brag about on Xbox LIVE.
3. You are a male stage-five clinger
Women are more independent than ever before, so if you’re constantly trying to get in touch, she might be ready to run in the other direction.
Try: Waiting for her to text you first. You don’t want to be the one to initiate the conversation every single time. Give her some room to breathe. If she’s interested, she will call or text you first from time to time.
The Warning Signs
Do you suspect that the woman you’ve been seeing just isn’t that into you? Here are some typical warning signs. If you identify with more than two, you might be headed for a breakup.
1. Her friends and family don’t seem that into you. Women talk about everything with their friends and family, so if they aren’t taking you seriously or if they don’t seem to like you, she might be feeling the same way.
2. She isn’t returning your texts or calls. This move isn’t just for men anymore! If you’re constantly playing phone tag and your texts are going unanswered for a day or two, she might be dropping you a hint.
3. She doesn’t make time for you. Everyone is busy, but if she is constantly blowing you off, she might be less serious than you are. Pay attention to the quality of her excuses. If she is doing laundry or feeding her dog suspiciously too often, it’s time to find someone new.
4. Her body language is saying all of the wrong things. It’s scientifically proven that men aren’t as quick to pick up on unconscious physical signals as women are. Focus on her facial expressions and whether her body is usually angled towards you to get a better idea.
5. She is completely anti-PDA. If she consistently doesn’t want to hold hands or pulls away when you’re going in for a kiss, she might not be that into you. At this rate, the only place you’re heading into is the friend zone.
6. Sex is always out of the question. She is always too tired, too busy, too this, or too that to even think about jumping in the sack with you. Or worse (ok, maybe better if you weren’t looking for anything serious to begin with) she ‘f*ck and chucks’. She sleeps over, but always leaves as soon as the deed is done and never keeps her personal belongings at your place. Even worse, situations like this often mean there are other men in her life.
7. She never invites you over to her house. If you two are always going out or over to your place and you have yet to see her front door, this is a sure sign that she just isn’t comfortable having you in her private sanctuary.
So, maybe that first date didn’t go as well as you thought it did. Or maybe, just maybe, she’s not that into you. At least now you know what to watch out for!
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